Sometimes you feel like a symphony without a sound.

Some may say that being the second child means that you are more loved and cared about by your parents . Well , i beg to differ . Let's start from when we were babies . Parents would be more excited to see their first child walk than seeing the second one walk . This is because when you finally get the experience of witnessing the first child walk , the second child taking his/her first step may be less appealing to watch or witness .

Now , we move on to the earlier years of life . First child usually get more services , eg childcare caretakers . When the first child shows good feedback of the service they are given , the second child would usually be neglected of these services . Parents would think that it's not a basic need , it's just an extra service that requires $ .

Finally , to the teenage years of life . At this part of life , studying is important for teenagers . Be it better or worse results , the first child would have better treatment from parents . If the first child does badly , parents would think that it's normal as they have never been through the whole studying process of their children . When the second child scores badly or just a little better than the first child , they would be no complimenting but rather nagging . The second child is expected to score better than the first . It's a psychological thing .

If the first child does very well , parents would think that it's meant to be . The examinations and tests must be simple , allowing them to obtain their fantastic results easily . So when the second child does better than the first child , the parents will take it for granted , as if it's supposed to be that way . And when the second child does not do as well as the first child , the parents will think that the second child is being lazy , not studying .

I have said my piece .

Charmaine is feeling fucked up .

Some may say that being the second child means that you are more loved and cared about by your parents . Well , i beg to differ . Let's start from when we were babies . Parents would be more excited to see their first child walk than seeing the second one walk . This is because when you finally get the experience of witnessing the first child walk , the second child taking his/her first step may be less appealing to watch or witness .

Now , we move on to the earlier years of life . First child usually get more services , eg childcare caretakers . When the first child shows good feedback of the service they are given , the second child would usually be neglected of these services . Parents would think that it's not a basic need , it's just an extra service that requires $ .

Finally , to the teenage years of life . At this part of life , studying is important for teenagers . Be it better or worse results , the first child would have better treatment from parents . If the first child does badly , parents would think that it's normal as they have never been through the whole studying process of their children . When the second child scores badly or just a little better than the first child , they would be no complimenting but rather nagging . The second child is expected to score better than the first . It's a psychological thing .

If the first child does very well , parents would think that it's meant to be . The examinations and tests must be simple , allowing them to obtain their fantastic results easily . So when the second child does better than the first child , the parents will take it for granted , as if it's supposed to be that way . And when the second child does not do as well as the first child , the parents will think that the second child is being lazy , not studying .

I have said my piece .

Charmaine is feeling fucked up .